Kids, Please Talk to Me
You need never face the darkness alone. Even if we’re strangers..
Another child is gone. Another part of our promise has succumbed to despair. Another part of us has vanished.
As a Dad, I feel helpless. How can we be there for our children, even when they are not our children? How can we let them know that it will be fine someday, and that many of us have walked where they are walking?
There are those of us who have been there. We’ve cried in the darkness, lost in our own misery, unsure how to get out. Life seemed so numb then, and the only thing that would bring us out would be the end of it.
We’ve smiled at the thought. It isn’t a happy smile, but it is a smile. For the moment, the tears stop and the unbearable weight of sadness lessens. It doesn’t go away, but it does get lighter, and when the unbearable gets lighter that relief is monumental.
There starts our journey down the rabbit hole. If the thought of ending the shit that we’re in can bring that relief, imagine what the end will bring. As we plan our demise we feel even lighter, and as we near the moment where it will all end the numbness feels just a little less numb.
Yes, it is numbness. When you feel a deep sadness over a long period of time it becomes numb. That’s why we’re so good at hiding it, and why many can’t even tell what our truest, darkest thoughts are. When you are numb you aren’t sad, but you aren’t happy either. What you are is good at being what others need you to be in the moments they are around you. The last thing you want is people who aren’t in your darkness lecturing you about how you should be feeling, how you should be acting, and how you should be thinking. You get that enough, and when it comes to this private, intimate place you just want to be there alone.
There are those of us who have been there and survived. We can relate to what you are going through, and we know what is just on the other side of this mountain. We want to walk with you, listen to you, hear you and do what we can to help you in this moment. When you get through it, I promise the load gets lighter. You don’t need to carry it alone, and you won’t be judged for how you are feeling.
So come to us, even if it’s just to walk silently down the path. Just don’t surrender yet. There’s so much the world needs you for. I promise. We. Need. You. You’ll see why soon enough.
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